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Self-Limiting Beliefs…Give ‘em the Boot!

Posted on April 10, 2014 03:42 pm

• I’ll never make enough money

• I’ll never find my soul mate

• I’ll never lose the weight

Any of these sound familiar? They are known as self-limiting beliefs, and many of us have at least one of them. They may be delivered as facts but are anything but. They are instead beliefs, opinions, or assumptions we have about ourselves that seem unshakable and the absolute truth. But they are only true because we have decided they are and believe that nothing can shake them.

The bad news is that these beliefs declare that nothing will ever change, or we don’t deserve anything better. Recall the term self-fulfilling prophesy? If you believe that something will never happen, well you can be sure it won’t. You are setting yourself up for failure and when it comes, maybe it will even feel good in some strange way, knowing that you were right about nothing changing. The big problem with self-limiting beliefs is that they can greatly limit your ability to achieve your goals and attain success, as they pretty much strip us of the power to change what is.

“To grow, you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past. Your history is not your destiny.”  ~Alan Cohen

 If you have ever said to yourself “I could never do that,” you have experienced a self-limiting belief. Our sabateurs (inner negative voices) are experts at reminding us of what we aren’t capable of or what we will never achieve. When I became a certified life coach I had two choices. I could tell myself that I was only fooling myself to think that I could get a successful practice going or remind myself that in the past I had always succeeded and achieved success in my various careers. It was a conscious choice to pick A or B.

“Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.” ~Roger Crawford

Here are Some Common Self-Limiting Beliefs

• Thinking That You Can’t Accomplish Something:

Chances are it is something that other people have accomplished at some time or another. Not believing that you are capable of accomplishing something is more a matter of lacking the necessary resources, skills, knowledge, or not giving yourself the time to figure it out. Think about all the things you have accomplished in your life. You can do this too if you set your mind to it.

• Believing That You Will Never be a Success

This I think is one of the most powerful of self-limiting beliefs. If we think we can never succeed we are rendered powerless. What we are doing here is not honoring our core values, which prevents us from taking the actions needed to move forward to attain our goals and dreams.

• Thinking That You Aren’t Going to Lose the Weight

Chances are this means that you haven’t made losing weight a priority in your life. When something is a priority, it means that nothing is going to stand in your way. A priority is something you face head on every single day to ensure it gets accomplished. No excuses…ever.

 “To grow, you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past. Your history is not your destiny.”  ~Alan Cohen

 Here are a few steps you can take to give your self-limiting beliefs the boot.

• Stop identifying with the belief. This will help to change how you define yourself. Tell yourself that this is not who you are any longer. 

Change your perspective. Question your point of view with a few queries: What is another way to look at this? How will I benefit from a new point of view? What is possible from new perspective?

• Change your life pattern. Break the cycle by doing something different. Take a new action. Be courageous and step out of your comfort zone. Remember, this is all about choices…make a different one and change your life.


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